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Earlier this week, Dennis Waterman admitted that he had hit his ex-wife, Rula Lenska, during their 11-year marriage.
Now, the actress has told the
Daily Mail that she doesn't bear him any ill will, but is "relieved" that he has finally spoken out.
She told the newspaper: "I certainly don't hate him, I don't have any feelings of revenge. Once there's been love, in my book, it never completely disappears. You still care."
Rula explains that she hasn't spoken to Dennis since she left him in 1996, after a booze-fuelled argument.
Although she explains that he was violent towards her on two occasions, she agrees with his comment that she wasn't a battered wife.
She says: "I have never called myself a battered wife. These things are never simple, are they? I know he hates me, but hate can be very close to love, can't it?"
Fifteen years ago, Rula spoke out about the violence that ended their marriage, and was publicly accused of being a liar by Dennis and his friends.
So she says that she was stunned by her ex-husband's confession, and upset by his lack of apology and attempt to blame her for what happened between them.
She explains that she has already tried to contact his agent to see if they could talk things through, but when he didn't respond she decided to agree to an interview instead.
She says: "For 15 years, I lived with the title of liar and sensationalist. There is now relief I can no longer be labelled that way.
"At the same time, it's been a huge shock. I haven't seen the show, but I can't imagine what Dennis was thinking, unless he was drunk.
"I can't believe he had the opportunity of going on a show like that and saying not: 'I did a really sh***y thing, I lied about it, and I apologise,' but turning it into a blame situation.
"He's still not taking responsibility. It's: 'It's not my fault, no, it's because she's this and she's that.'
"Perhaps he imagines that in the eyes of the people watching, it's a rather heroic admission. 'Yeah, I slapped my wife around and I'm really ashamed.'
"I want to say: 'Stop playing the lad.' He's a grandfather yet he's still playing the Minder character."
She's also angry at his attempt to blame her for being strong and intelligent.
She says: "Whatever the adjectives - strong, powerful, intelligent - they can never be used as an excuse for violence towards woman. Whoever uses them should be brought to account.
"If I have to apologise for being a strong, intelligent woman then what does that mean for any woman? It is utterly irresponsible."
She adds: "And Dennis was no fool. Whatever his background, he could hold his own."
Although she says that the end of their relationship was very painful, she admits that she would still like him to pick up the phone and say sorry.
If he did call she says that she would say, "thank you. And what took you so long?"
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- David Bowie and Iman: Married 19 years
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